Sunday, February 6, 2011

Keeping up appearances

I am not an English genious so the headline might not mean what I want it to mean. I WANT it to mean....that Facebook today made me realize something (which you all already know) - it's a f..... pink cloud. Where everyone tries to make everyone else feel smaller, by updating their status. I've done it myself. Everytime I do something good, I get a need to "tell the world". How good it feels with comments comfirming how good you are. How pathetic?

At the same time you sit there yourself, reading about other people's life. How perfect they are/their husbands/wives/their exciting lives/their great careers/beautiful children etc. It can ruin your OWN life. Can't it?

I also put it there, about my great life. I might think it sucks at the moment. But making a status update about it, is out of the question. It's only positive things that come out, although reality at that moment can be quite different. At the same time I think it's pathetic with all the updates about how bad someone is feeling. I mean, "I have a headache, poor meeee" or "I'm so sick and tired of everything" or... something else you think would be best if they kept to theirselves.

Sometimes I just wanna scream it: "Fuck my life!! I hate my job/myself/husband... I feel like the most useless idiot in the world!!" We all feel that, right? But we don't tell anyone, and that's how it should be of course. But why are we so intent on tyring to make the opposite impression? That we are all living a dream life, so that everyone else can be jealous?

Today I got a crazy thought in my head. What would happen if I actually deleted myself from Facebook? Can I? Dare I? How will it feel next time I put on my pc and don't get to see what everyone else is doing or feeling? Hmm.

6 comments:

Nana Yaw Asiedu said...

Legitimate thoughts. Can't say I've not had them.

For a truth, if I had not connected my blog to networked blogs on face book, I'd probably have taken down my face book account by now.

Good piece.

Anonymous said...

I deleted my facebook account a year ago. I was starting to feel bad about my life and wonder why everyon else seemed to have the perfect life while mine sucked. I would spend hours stalking my ex and feeling depressed about all the girls he flirted with constantly. Also started feeling jealous of my friends in stable seemingly happy relationships which is not a good feeling. So I deactivated my account. It's been good therapy. Allowed me to get over my ex without being bombarded by his facebook activity and not feel so bad about my life. I will go back soon (facebook only temporarily deactivated the account so you can go back whenever) but this time away has been good for my soul.

Adaeze said...

I completely agree. I almost never make status updates because I dont want to. But every day I read about people saying OMGGGG MY BOYFRIEND IS THE BEST IN THE WOOOOORLD AND I HAD THE BEST DAY EVER! lol...i think its ok to make a status update every now and then, but the whole world doesnt need to knw all yr business...

grahamghana said...

I think many of us have had the same thoughts. It's just that watching people on facebook gives me so many ideas for my blog!

MISS Raine said...

I don't update my Facebook status very often and when I do, its usually about something very mundane- my page is pretty boring lol. I know there are some people out there whose lives revolve around updating their Facebook status telling us how awesome and/or awful their lives are. Sigh. I don't Facebook as much anyway so that stuff really doesn't faze me.

Anonymous said...

Apart from keeping up with the Joneses, and sadly the bad side of it, I just love to once in a while meet or see my old childhood friends. Hilda